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Then you won’t want to miss this exciting event. Arizona Association of Gifted and Talented is hosting their 6th annual Parent Institute on September 27th and registration has already begun! If you haven’t been to one of these events in the past you simply cannot miss this one. If you have you know how valuable they are; get your registration in before its too late.
Learn about what’s going on for gifted children in your community, pick up some insights from amazing keynote speaker Dr. Amy Serin, choose from an array of subjects during three separate breakouts and be with other parents of gifted children for an entire day.
There is also an on-site enrichment program for children in grades K-8 so there really is no excuse not to attend!
If you do nothing else this year, attend an event like this one. I promise you will come away feeling connected, motivated, and with a little more understanding of what makes that amazing child of yours tick! Click here for the registration page. (Financial assistance is available for those in need.)
One of my posts Why Parents of Gifted Children are Turning to Homeschooling, generated some very heated comments. One very passionate teacher had this to say:
I do love my job, but I am making plans to leave it. The problem is that I just cannot meet all of the demands I’m under without compromising individuals’ experiences, and my own failure to reach some of these kids is emotionally damaging me in ways I could have never anticipated before I took on this career. Today, I had a surprise walk-through evaluation in one of the most
hectic weeks of my career (5 brand-new students, one on an IEP, one with a 504, and one who speaks no English and whose language is so rare my translator app cannot accommodate her- I teach freshmen English). Despite this week’s thousands of challenges, I was conducting a wonderful lesson in which each student took part in enlightening their peers in an investigative research report. The kids were quiet, well-managed, respectful, and they had impressive projects. I was so proud!
The principal, in the four minutes he stayed, did not see several of the checklist requirements within those four minutes of student presentations, and I got a mediocre review. His biggest criticism? A student was wearing a hat when he walked in. I have 150 students throughout my class in a day. I have noticed when they are depressed, high on drugs, hurting themselves, or in violent moods. But I did not take care of that hat. I get a mediocre review.
We aren’t just failing our students, we are failing our best teachers too.
I think her story strikes at the heart of what we are struggling with in education right now. We feel the need to measure everything with checklists and data. The problem is, the things (I think) we want from education aren’t so easily measured.
We want innovators, leaders, creators, critical thinkers, and hard workers. We want people who are going to change the world, who are going to lead in science and technology and arts and humanities, who are going to be able to tackle the big problems currently facing our planet. We want students to be confident and bold, compassionate and caring.
Faced with a hectic week and several unexpected curve balls, the teacher focused on what was important and led her class through a lesson. A lesson that resulted in impressive projects. In one period, she was able to give those students an example of innovation, leadership, and hard work. She modeled how to be confident when faced with challenges, and when she was proud of what they accomplished, the students experienced genuine compassion and caring.
She led by example, she was a role model.
But what she did wasn’t on the checklist, so she got a mediocre review. I think anyone can tell just by the paragraph she wrote above, she is not a mediocre teacher – she is what our school system needs more of.
We need to inspire curiosity, we need to empower students to take risks and make mistakes instead of penalizing them for doing either. We need to give children time to pursue their own interests, we need to teach them how to set goals and how to achieve them, we need to teach them how to value each other and how to lead effectively, we need to teach them how to co-operate, how to embrace or at least entertain radical new ideas, how to think critically and how to believe in themselves. We need to let them soak up great literature, we need to give them space to enjoy and understand art, we need to show them history – show them how it helped, hurt or changed the world, show them how we learned from it and how we can use it to create a better world going forward.
And just how can we do that?
We have to trust each other more. We have to hire great leaders who can inspire our teachers to empower our children. We have to believe in them and recognize that this doesn’t always translate into high standardized test scores. We have to spend money on art and PE and music and nutritious food, not on big corporate testing contracts or empty initiatives with fluffy names. We have to care more about students than we care about test scores and we have to value teachers who are creative and compassionate and who try to make learning about more than getting test results.
When we are able to let go of standardization, when we are able to see children as people and not as statistics, and when we value teachers for their ability to nurture learning and inspire questions rather than memorize answers, then we will have education that can accommodate all different learning styles, speeds and abilities. Then we will have a system that will accommodate the diversity in our children instead of trying to stamp it out.
Tell someone that your child is gifted and they’ll probably roll their eyes. They might wait until you’re not looking, but eyes will roll.
Tell someone that your child is at risk for not finishing high school, more likely to struggle with depression, at an increased risk of suicide, or even more likely to be incarcerated than the general population, and you’ll probably get more concern than eye rolling.
Of course most parents of gifted children realize that I’m saying the same thing. But many people have no idea.
Many people feel that the label of gifted is unfair – that is somehow implies that children who do not make often arbitrary sounding cut offs on IQ tests or other criteria are not smart, talented or in any other way special. And I would agree, it does imply that, and that has done a huge disservice to everyone, gifted children included.
The problem is that the label ‘gifted’ sounds a lot like ‘has gifts’. This problem is compounded by the addition of “and talented” to many gifted programs. So little Johnny goes in for testing for the “gifted” and “talented” program. Turns out he didn’t make the cut off. So now, as a parent what I’m hearing is “little Johnny has no gifts and is not talented”. See how I might find that off-putting?
The reality is that gifted kids are often difficult to understand, can be overly sensitive and unusually excitable. They can have a very hard time with injustice or unfairness and they think in ways that can make them hard for other children to get along with. They are often extremely intense. They can find themselves turned off of school completely after facing too many long days of being bored, and forced to be taught things they have already learned. They can struggle with depression, understanding big, heavy issues like poverty and world hunger on a profound level, but lacking the life experience and maturity to be able to cope.
Don’t get me wrong, they can also be amazingly empathetic, fiercely creative, able to solve problems far beyond their years and have many other remarkable qualities. Their intensity can allow them to absorb vast amounts of information when something is interesting to them. But the semantic mishap that has called this condition ‘gifted’ has left these kids and their parents accused of elitism and demanding too much from an already stretched school system. Because they are gifted people assume that they will do “just fine” without the extra help and support that they truly need.
Sometimes their boredom translates into disruptive behavior. Sometimes it creates apathy for school, or worse, hatred. Some kids become withdrawn or even depressed. Whatever it looks like, parents know something is not working. Parents of gifted children advocate for their child, for acceleration, alternatives, some kind of enrichment so that their child can get back to doing what they are supposed to be doing: LEARNING.
A lucky few have full time gifted programs that their gifted child can attend.
Some are given pull out classes. Once a week for an hour their child can move into a higher grade level of math or science.
Many are told that they could access some enrichment, that the school could provide alternatives that would engage this child better. But first he has to learn how to behave, that if he can’t do what is required of him in the classroom now they cannot even consider accelerating or enriching his curriculum. This is like offering to give medicine to a sick person on the condition that they get well first.
Others are told that, because their child doesn’t have a diagnosis, they really can’t do anything for him. Some are even told to go and “get” a diagnosis, so that funding can be allocated for their child’s education.
At some point along this path, many parents of gifted children find themselves exhausted and out of options. Needing to find some way to meet the needs of their children, homeschooling emerges as a viable alternative. Homeschooling offers the gifted child time to really explore their interests, it allows them to move freely through subjects that they grasp quickly and gives you the opportunity to address their unique set of needs.
Of course homeschooling comes with its own set of challenges, and its not for everyone. But for those of us who have spent time and energy trying to get our square pegs to fit into the school system’s round holes, the responsibility and effort of homeschooling, while at times daunting, are a welcome reprieve.
Recently, I heard a teacher compare homeschooling your children with choosing not to take them to the doctor and (her words) “doctoring them” at home. Her point was of course that in order to teach one must have teaching credentials. I love teachers and have many teacher friends. I truly believe teaching today has to be one of the toughest and important jobs there is. NOT everyone could teach a room of first graders how to read – that is what teachers are trained to do. But can anyone with the means and the will teach their own child academics? Can anyone can teach their own child at home?
Currently, the laws in most states say that you can. Many states only require that you state your intention to homeschool, some require some test scores and/or a professional evaluation of student progress, but only a tiny few require any kind of qualification of parents. So for most Americans, if you have the means and the will, you can legally homeschool your children.
The means and the will.
What does it take to satisfy the ‘means’ of this equation?
There is a commonly held belief out there suggesting that you need to have a two parent intact family where only one parent works. However, there is a ton of information out there showing that this simply isn’t the case (see Pamela Price’s book How to Work and Homeschool). Single parents who work while homeschooling? It can be done. There are also a ton of free or very cheap resources out there for homeschoolers, so satisfying the financial means does not require a six figure income.
But what about the intellectual means?
I don’t think there are a ton of people out there who would agree with our teacher friend from the beginning of this post. First of all, the comparison between teaching and medicine is ludicrous.
And secondly, as I mentioned before, teacher training would be a necessity in a classroom setting, but at home with your own children? No, I don’t think most people would say that there is a need for that.
But should we hold homeschooling parents to a certain standard before allowing them to school their own children at home? Can someone with, say, a GED, teach advanced chemistry? Can a high school dropout teach foreign languages? Can someone without a college degree teach advanced high school mathematics? Can someone with a college degree in English Literature teach advanced chemistry? The list is endless and clearly parents can’t be all things to all subjects.
The internet has become such an amazing resource for homeschoolers that they literally can find anything they need with the click of a mouse. And you can purchase curriculum in nearly every subject. There are free online courses in many subjects and public online high schools abound. So would teaching an advanced subject be problematic for a homeschool parent who doesn’t understand it themselves? I don’t think it would for a parent who places a high value on such study, assuming they have the ability to seek out and utilize the tools necessary.
But what if one is not motivated enough, or does not place a high enough value on a high school education to get one themselves? Are they going to impart to their children the view that education is not important? What about the parent who does not have the capacity to seek out the information they need to teach, or the ability to teach it?
I guess I would argue that the parent who does not place a high value on education is going to affect their children regardless of whether they send them to school or not. And anyone who does not have the capacity to seek out the information needed to homeschool would be unlikely to undertake homeschooling in the first place.
So are you qualified to teach your child at home? I believe that you are, but I would love to hear what others have to say.
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When we hear the word “gifted” we usually think of someone who is extremely intelligent, has remarkable talents or an unusually high IQ. Most people think of being gifted as, well, a gift. It certainly is, to some extent. You learn new information quickly and easily. You pick up new skills with ease. You excel in several, if not most, areas of your life. But being gifted is incredibly difficult and comes with a variety of issues and complications that are rarely observed or addressed. It’s not always a gift.
I come from a family of extremely intelligent and talented people going back several generations. They accomplished world-renowned feats in science, art and education. These talents have been passed down for several generations now. My biological mother graduated medical school and college simultaneously. I was considered gifted and earned multiple awards and scholarships, graduating from high school early. Now I…
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Homeschooling a gifted child can be summed up in one deceptively simple word: intense.
It will be intensely challenging, you will be intensely exhausted, they will intensely fight your efforts to stay on task or stick to any kind of a schedule, they will react badly if you cannot stay on task or stick the schedule that they hate with intensity, they will fixate on a thing with such intensity that you will be sure they have left this world entirely, and most of all homeschooling your gifted child will be intensely rewarding.
Why consider homeschooling a gifted child?
Homeschooling a gifted child comes with all the benefits of homeschooling all children. You will enjoy a more relaxed lifestyle, you won’t have to defend your child to teachers that just don’t ‘get’ him, you can enjoy travel or spend time doing other things because school won’t take you seven hours a day. But gifted children have a unique set of needs that the current public school system is struggling to meet. Gifted students process things differently, and that can mean that a math lesson that is 45 minutes long can be learned in 5 minutes. It can also mean that a science lesson that is 45 minutes long leaves them yearning to explore the topic more deeply and creates a preoccupation in them that makes it difficult to sit still and pay attention for the rest of the day.
There is ample research supporting the fact that compaction and subject matter acceleration work really well for gifted kids. The problem in a school setting is that they both require an intense amount of time spent on each individual student. With compaction the idea is that the teacher will assess what the student knows and then teach to fill in the gaps. This sounds simple enough, but when you have twenty or more students, this suddenly becomes an exercise in infinite workloads.
Another option that works well for many gifted children is acceleration. If whole grade level acceleration is appropriate for a child then the public school system can accommodate that quite efficiently. However, often subject matter acceleration is more appropriate. A gifted child can be working two or three grade levels ahead in math while still working at their grade level in other subjects. Some school settings do accommodate subject matter acceleration, but as with compaction, it requires an increase in workload – something that is difficult to get out of an already overtaxed system.
If you are in a situation where your school can’t or won’t accommodate your gifted child, homeschooling can be a great alternative. With homeschooling you can use both acceleration and compaction. You can make information more compact if he or she understands it, and you can move ahead at your leisure – you don’t have to wait for the next school year to start the next school year’s math. You don’t even have to wait until your kids are done this school year to allow them to learn something that is several years ahead. They can feel free to explore their own potential. I have noticed with my own gifted children that they have an uncanny ability to fill in the blanks. In math this can mean learning several skills simultaneously. Learning multiplication facts while learning fractions and decimals. (Or maybe its learning multiplication facts because they are learning fractions and decimals, maybe one skill somehow helped them with another?). Whatever it is, homeschooling allows them to do more of it.
An additional academic advantage to homeschooling a gifted child is the ability to accommodate the gifted child’s areas of interest. If they want to spend a week exploring anti-matter when they should really be learning about division, that’s usually okay. The learning style and speed of a gifted child means they’ll typically make up for lost time quickly. If a spark is ignited when he or she learns how to do basic algebra, you can let them do as much as they want. If they pick up Huckleberry Finn and just can’t put it down, you don’t have to make them. The love of learning and the thirst for knowledge that, it seems to me, is innate with the gifted mind, can truly be accommodated by homeschooling. By pushing that passion into the 45 minute boxes that we call school, we often extinguish it.
One non-academic reason for homeschooling your gifted child is that gifted children tend to prefer to be around people of all ages. They are more likely to relate to a person who is their age intellectually or socially in a given situation. This doesn’t always mean they need to be around older children; sometimes asynchronous development leaves them behind in one or more areas and they are more comfortable with younger children. Either way, more variety of ages then is typically is allowed in school settings can be very good for gifted kids.
How to homeschool a gifted child?
There are many methods of homeschooling and different curricula and approaches, what you do in that department really comes down to personal choice. From my own experience homeschooling gifted children, I can tell you that there are three things that keep me sane. When things start to feel like they are unraveling (and they will, trust me), these are the three things I always come back to to get us back on track.
1. Scheduling. That’s right, we need to have a schedule. I know of tons of homeschooling parents that don’t , but we do. And then we have to be ready to abandon it at a moments notice. My experience has been that my kids need to know what we are doing when and for how long. My son will hold me to this as if it is tattooed on my forehead and my daughter will forget it the moment I tell her what it is. But they both need it before they can settle in to doing any real work. On the flip side, if we stumble across something that captures that intense desire for more, we had better be ready to abandon it, or what makes them love learning is lost.
2. Keep them moving. This one might be just so that I can catch my breath, and try to figure out how the heck I am going to find more information on tectonic plates and still have time to sort something out for dinner, but it helps. I find a way to get them some exercise everyday. If they tire themselves out, when its lights out time at night, they are better able to turn off their brains and get some much needed rest.
3. Take care of yourself. I know I know, you’ve heard it before. But it is so important and so true it is worth repeating. Do you know why, when you are on an airplane, they tell you if the oxygen masks ever come down to secure yours first, before securing your child’s? BECAUSE IF YOU DON’T TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF YOU CANNOT TAKE CARE OF OTHER PEOPLE. This is not just a “you deserve a break, give yourself a gold star” moment with a bunch of smiley faces. This is a necessary part of taking care of anyone. If you don’t do it you will run out of oxygen and then the people who depend on you will be left to fend for themselves. Homeschooling a gifted child can at times feel like you are constantly pouring liquid into a bottomless vessel. Their thirst for knowledge can exhaust you very quickly. Take care of yourself so that you can continue to fill up that vessel.
For more information about homeschooling check out the book Modern Homeschooling – a comprehensive look at how homeschooling has moved into mainstream society in recent years.
Many parents might be struggling right now with a really big decision. Maybe last year was a tough year, or maybe it was a mediocre year, or maybe your child has some special needs that the school isn’t meeting, or maybe your child would like to dedicate more time to a passion in music or art or sport, or maybe you would like to travel more – there are a ton of reasons why a parent might consider homeschooling their child. But when it comes down to it, how do you know if you can or should?
I would put money on it, if everyone were allowed to take a trial run at homeschooling (maybe take the month of October off and give it a whirl), our schools would be pretty deserted.
And I believe its safe to say that anyone who wanted to do it could absolutely do it successfully.
I was going to homeschool for a few months during a transition time, and to me that was a crazy decision. But I figured I could do anything for a short while. The big surprise came when I LOVED IT.
Suddenly doors opened for us that I hadn’t even considered. We could travel. We could do all kinds of cool activities during the week. There was so much more time in a day! We were closer as a family (I thought we would be ready to strangle each other after the second week). We never had to worry about having time to eat a meal at the table together in a day. We were all less stressed.
So I have decided to keep on homeschooling. I don’t know if I’ll do it for another year or until they all graduate from high school, but this year we are going to homeschool.
If you are undecided, I would urge you to try it. Give it a year or until Christmas or even Halloween – that’s not such a big commitment, Its the only way you are going to know for sure.
If you do decide to give it a try or if you already did, I would love to hear from you. How did it turn out? Are there more people out there like me who were surprised by what homeschooling really looks like?
For a more in depth look at the pros and cons of homeschooling and help with making the big decision, check out my book Modern Homeschooling!